Most of us didn’t learn how to do relationships at school. And as grown-ups, we often focus on our individual performance, wellbeing or productivity.

But we are always in relationship to one another; we are part of many complex ‘relational systems’ – couples, families, teams, communities. We constantly impact each other and are impacted upon.

Can we take control of that impact? We may sometimes think that the partnership or team we’re in – be it professional or personal – is ‘just the way it is’, that the dynamic was set at the beginning and can’t be changed.

But I believe we can proactively decide how we want to inter-relate, we can co-create it. By focussing on both ‘self’ and ‘system’, relationship coaching enables us to become the architects of our relationships, at home and at work.